We're always taught, from the youngest age, that we should fight for what we want. Fight until death. That we shouldn't let others take our love things away from us. That we're meant to protect what means the most to us. And as we grow older, we keep holding on to the idea that it's okay to fight, even if it's a losing battle.
What if fighting for what you want, what you love most, keeps holding someone else back from fighting for what they want ?
What if you're getting in the way because you're holding on to something that wants to run away from you ?
One of the hardest things you'll ever have to face in life is letting go of something you want more than life. Or in some cases, someone you want more than life.
The question is - how do you know when you should let go ?
There's got to be a point in time where your eyes are opened to the fact that you're not making anything better. In fact, holding on to them, on to what you love most, is holding them back from becoming the best person they can be. And you hold onto them because you feel like you can't be the best you can be without them. You feel like they're the reason why you're a good person, and yet you're toxic for them. You end up becoming a leech, sucking the life out of them. All because deep down inside you know you're meant to fight for what you want.
And then, you both fight like cats and dogs because you want to keep things the same, while they want to change it. They're telling you it's for the best, but you can't see it. You don't want to believe that they could be just as happy, if not happier, without you as close, or even there at all. A small part of you starts to crumble away; you can feel a piece of your soul vanishing. And there's nothing you can do to stop it. No matter how hard or long you fight to keep holding on, it's only going to push them further away. It fuels their desire to resist you and they do everything in spite of you, just to show you that it's better off that way.
No matter what you say, or do, it's not going to change. This change was the best damn thing to happen, and if you can't see that, then you don't deserve to be apart of the great future that lays ahead. You're leeching the life out of them, and there's only so much I can put up with before I lose my shit at you. I know it's hard to understand, it's hard for me to say this, because I was once like you. You're only going to push them further away from you. So just accept that this is how things are going to be from now on, and move on with your life.
You have someone, right by your side, who's holding onto you because they love you. Go with that. Don't give up on something that'll work because you're holding onto something that's already past its expiry date. You had your chance, now accept that there are things that cannot be.